Marriage breakups, divorces and just plain lying to your partner can be attributed to the amount of cheating songs you hear on the radio and other music venues. My generation grew up to the cheating songs of country music, the lyrics to which can be a catalyst that gives birth to messing around on your spouse. The age old question of why spouses cheat on each other in a marriage will probably never be answered, but I believe some of the blame can be attributed to old country music songs of love lost and love betrayed.
Let's clear something up first. I don't really call today's music sung by boys and girls in cowboy hats real country music. That distinction belongs to the music of the '70's and the unique country voices that made a cheating song sound like reality.
One of my favorite songs about cheating tells what happens to assumedly normal folks in a long time marriage. Sometimes when the doldrums of everyday life reaches its zenith, songs like this one can ring a bell for the right person.
"After The Fire Is Gone!" is a haunting ballad by Loretta Lynn and Conway Twitty. Both were at the top of their game when this song was recorded in 1975. Haunting lyrics, "Love is where you find it, when you find no love at home" is a great example of loneliness with your spouse.
This song offers an excuse for bad behavior to someone who is not happy in a marriage. I can't be sure but I imagine that if an excuse was needed to cheat on your spouse, this song would be a springboard to misbehavior.
Another moving ballad is one that speaks of the conflict in the mind of someone who is already running around on his wife. It shows the heartbreak that affects not only the cheater, but the person being cheated on.
Earl Thomas Conley recorded the hit in 1983; "Holding Her and Loving You!" He tries to explain himself to his new romance; "If she'd give me one good reason I'd be gone, but she ain't done, one thing wrong. So don't expect me to just walk out the door, I still love her, but I love you more." No one can deny that lyrics like that will spur someone on to behaving as if he weren't married.
The Statler Brothers in 1985 made us aware of the consequences of misbehaving, whether it's cheating or lying about something when the truth would have been better. Their hit song, "I Saw Your Picture in The Paper Sunday Morning" relates to many of us. Unfortunately few of us could have written such poignant words of regret.
"I saw your picture in the paper Sunday morning, by then the honeymoon was almost through. Now you've made your bed, and I hope you lie well in it. I hope you'll both be happy... you see I still lie well too. " Country music lives on cheating songs. Even though today's musicians churn them out like fresh baked Tortilla chips on a conveyer belt, the older songs are strong enough to play a huge part in the breakup of a relationship. Still there is no greater country cheating tune than Hank William's, "Your Cheating Heart!"